On one hand I was laughing at the "let" question. Similar to several other men here I don't see it as an option. Plead maybe, permission not optional. On the other hand PLB's like the SPOT, GPS, and cell phones have introduced new levels of safety for back country folks.
If you look around there was a thread on Whiteblaze about what you are asking about. Sorry, I do not remember the name of the thread. It would be worth showing him if you find it. As I recall a lot of frustrated women venting about him messing with her hiking. If he is worried about the two of you he is playing with a ticking bomb not "letting" you go.
I looked at your location to see where you hiked. If you have not done so you might find it worth checking out the ADK. The chapter news is available though the main web site. Pick any location off the map:
http://www.adk.org/chapters/index.aspx
AFAIK they welcome anybody on their trips. Genesee Valley and Albany used to be the two largest and busiest chapters. GV has an active women only hiking group. Schedules are on line under the various chapters. Call the trip leader if you are interested and you will be able to get a sense of the trip and whether or not you are interested.
Point is there are group trips available if you look that will welcome you. The bigger problem will be relative skill/fitness expectations. That's where trip leaders come in.
When I traveled in those circles a group of 5 was maybe a couple and 3 singles or 5 singles operating as a group. You are relatively on your own but with backup if needed. Do a couple of those and it might help defray buying goodies as well as let him understand you can operate on your own.
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