You're all quite welcome; the best experiences are the shared ones, even if only in the telling.
As for the stove I can't take any of the credit. I watched this guys video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XHggPhzMaPo
the only difference is I ended up adding more jet holes than he did (double the number and smaller size) and it worked much better after I did. I also added wicking around the base. I load it with 1/2 an ounce and then squirt some on the wicking. No pot stand and you'll see in the video that he had to "vent" his with 4 holes on the inside; i DID NOT do that and mine works great. I'm making another one to increase the height by a 1/4" and to make the jets all the same size (smaller than 1/16) and more perfectly lined up.
For you true gram weenies I saw another stove highlighted in a very recent video trip report. It's a chimney stove and weights only 7grams. The WD 40 stove weights about 22/23 grams.
And after looking at another trip report I'm going to take a steak and figure out how to grill one on a Vargo Titanium Wood stove !!!
Enjoy the day