I'm thinking asking to go to a group hang for even one night the weekend of my first anniversary is a bad idea... But as I posted above, pork butts are really considered beginner's barbecue. Charcoal is best, preferably hardwood chunks. For barbecue sauce it'd be fun to have everyone bring their favorite. I prefer to add the sauce to individual sandwiches rather than the whole butt anyway.
I'd be shocked if someone wouldn't step up and feel comfortable taking it on. I really wish it could be me.